Tuesday, February 26, 2013

Losing Yourself

I am a strong believer in not forgetting yourself once you have children. I know people say, "you won't understand until you have kids. I disagree. I grew up in a pretty large family, and despite my mom and dad splitting up when I was still quite young, both of my parents managed to not lose themselves within parenting.

I guess this post is coming from the frustration I have felt all through my pregnancy, with people telling me that I won't have a life anymore, or I'll have no time for myself, or to work out, or finish school, or work, or play, or go on vacation. I was so shocked at the negativity I got from other parents... like being a parent was some sort of sentence or time you had to serve in jail. I am not pointing out anyone specifically, just in general.

Well I am here to point out that I disagree. Yes, that may be my opinion, and yes I don't have children, yet (one month to go), but I think I have seen enough from personal experience. My mom had 5 kids. She continued to get a degree in accounting, travel, and nursing. She loved to go on vacations ever since we were little. She took time to go out with her girl friends, and took time to herself. The time she wasn't doing all these things was spent closely with us (her children). She made it a point to involve us in every part of her life she could, and she was very capable of doing many things she loved, WITH children. Same with my dad. He pursued his business and happened to be very successful, he enjoyed traveling all over the world, and in the united states (in which he took us along), he also loved boating and Lake Lanier in which he involved his children very much.

My point in this rant is that having children does not mean you stop having fun, stop enjoying your marriage, your life. Yeah you may lack energy for awhile, that doesn't last forever... I have every intention on finishing my degree, I have every intention to continue doing what I love, which yes includes working out on a daily basis, and all things outdoors. My child has every ability to do these things with me.

So if you get anything from this post, realize that I am not meaning to offend anyone who's opinion may be the opposite of mine, I am just defending my opinion.

I choose to see the glass as half full... not half empty.

1 comment:

  1. I am sorry if some how I offended you sis. I was not being negative I was just simply stating that it is hard to find the time once you have kids.. not that it isn't possible to still have fun. I have managed to find time to squeeze in due to a supportive husband and find girls time,etc but in no way was I saying children are a pain... and if you got that from me... read again. I love being a mom, but it IS exausting.. I won't deny it but very much rewarding and worth every sacrifice I have made over the yrs... I was just stating that you may not have as much energy as you once had... especially if you have more children than one, and rock climbing with a child in tow well if you manage that, I will be amazed but I never meant ANY offense. sorry if I did offend.